There were so many times I wanted to leave. But when you know that somebody will murder you or your child if you leave, and no one else around you cares, what’s the point?
The option I had was to use the tools in my toolbox that prepared me for life; ones that were broken and scarred. I didn’t know how to get healthy tools to survive and thrive in my community. I couldn’t turn to my church because they approved of my marriage to my abuser. I couldn’t turn to my mother because she was in recovery.
If I had known about Call to Safety, I would’ve called the crisis line. What if somebody would’ve asked me, “Are you okay? Do you need help?”Just to have some options, to make a plan, it would’ve made all the difference; that turn could’ve saved me so much pain. But I also know that everybody has a journey, and part of mine is to love other survivors on their journey.
Recently I had to quit my job because I experienced domestic violence. I left my dream job where I had a great mentor relationship with my boss; he was a person who really believed in me and my ability to be a leader at work. I had build relationships with the people I worked with, but because of shame, not wanting them to know what I had experienced, and being scared for my safety, I left that incredible job. After giving my abuser the power to take my dream away from me, I decided I wasn’t going to run anymore.
Everything that was meant to destroy me has empowered me, saved me. I don’t look like what I’ve been through. As a volunteer Board Member at Call to Safety, I’m proud to share my story. People are waking up everyday with no hope. I want them to know that there is life after abuse. There is life after rape. There is life after darkness.
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